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I woke up this morning just before 5am (because I’d been in a See’s Candy/rose’/mini chicken pot pie induced coma for about 11 hours) and couldn’t go back to sleep. So naturally, I decided to hop on Twitter to see what the east coasters were talking about. The 1st tweet I saw was one that @areefuhstanklin RT’ed from @FatFemPinUp. I immediately moseyed on over to her TL where I subsequently got my entire life. Get into @FatFemPinUp’s “rant” about being held accountable for online dirt and follow her on Twitter for more gems. <3

Being Held Accountable For Online Dirt, In Real Life http://t.co/3kSYMZTn #storify #notso #youmightbeafeminist

do you think ppl should be held accountable IRL for the things they post on social networking sites?

there seems to be this SHAME in addressing someone IRL over something they put online…as if their online life were out of bounds

so ..if you’re online flirting or bashing someone and a family member or a your significant other address you for it….they’re in the wrong

what i dont understand is this: your online persona is a public expression of yourself, y do u think u shudnt be held accountable for YOU?

there’s alot of cheating that goes on, online, a lot of racism, sexism and hate speech, a lot of planning and plotting against others

but somehow people….men specifically think that the whole internet is vegas, and what happens on the internet stays there 0.o #notso

you shouldnt go to the internet to have a private life

if you’re going to scheme….and you dont want to answer for it IRL, you prolly shudnt tweet about it, i dun care WHO is “stalking” ur page

your significant other gets online and catches you calling someone else baby and “the one” and all u can say is “stop stalking my page”

as if they MUST be the crazy one for finding out that you’re talking to women online and feigning faithfulness IRL, so instead of apologizng

instead of tryna work it out…..you paint them as crazy and meddlesome….tryna hold you down, stalking you, obsessing……oh….oh ok

now of course there is a line….u can’t get confronted offline for everything you say like “melanie fiona can get it” and u get cussed out

but thinking that you can openly tweet about some dirt you are on IRL and still be above reproach is ridiculous

i got mad at my …whatever the hell he is…for calling this girl his “prototype” …its a nickname he calls me…and it has significance

to him and to me…it goes to a person being everything that you ever wanted in a mate…a model for what you need/want/deserve for yourself

called another woman that….and im like …wait…so there’s more than one of us? so aint shit special about that? OH….

and he was like i shudnt have to answer for my tweets in my text messages….why not? isnt everyone accountable for the things they say?

what makes you the exception?

or is it bc i am a woman and you are a man ..and you want the freedom to run game on everyone you come in contact with…..no accountability

and another thing….ppl get on the internet and expose themselves to be these REAL SHITTY individuals….and DARE ppl IRL to call em on it

and when you do….U’RE in the wrong? lol just some more of those patriarchal power games, where blatantly wrong men can make you look crazy

and they gang up on women too! in order to protect their “right” to do internet dirt….one dude says “bitches are crazy for stalking my

twitter, facebook etc. page” ….and other men hurriedly agree, bc if they unite behind that dude, then they gain more freedom online

that’s how patriarchy works…get all the men in agreement…and all the women fighting each other, and the men rise to the top controlling

then there is this message sent that “good women” who keep their men, dont hold them accountable for the things they post online

good women dont ‘stalk’ their significant other’s pages bc they have class or bc they trust them or bc ignorance is bliss

but am I stalking you if i take a look at your twitter/facebook page once every few weeks to see if you posted any new pics? am i really?

am i stalking you if we had an awesome weekend together where i came from out of town to see you, and want to see if you mentioned it?

am i stalking you if this is the first time i’ve EVER addressed anything you’ve tweeted, bc it hurt me or disconcerted me? no. I am not.

men are very quick to throw around the controlling image of the fem stalker who, stays on their internet pgs all day, waitin for em to fk up

i wont make a liar out of myself and pretend that women dont use the internet this way….but seriously….how often? and who backs them up?

something can be said about having a social system behind you when you’re in the wrong…screaming that you’re right bc you’re the man

All I’m really saying is …dont think yu can say hurtful things online, pursue other women openly online….and not answer for it IRL

now….no one has a right to POLICE your behavior…online or offline…but there’s a difference between policing and holding u accountable